Thursday, September 30, 2010

My Wedding Day(s)

As you may notice by my title, I have had more than one wedding day. The first one happened when I was 19 years old and didn't really understand what marriage was all about. I got pregnant 4 months into the marriage and really didn't think about it much beyond that. 9 months later my first child was born in a teaching hospital in Iowa City, IA. We came home and started our family life together. I won't bore you with every detail, but suffice it to say 29 months later my second daughter was born as I was in the process of getting divorced from my first husband and starting a relationship with my second husband. My daughters are now 26 and 24 and are no longer in my life. We divorced after only 4 years of marriage.

I married my second husband when I was 27 and started life as a cop's wife and stepmother to three little girls. None of them really liked me much and again, without going into too much detail about it, I ended up divorcing him after nearly 10 years. I absconded with a vehicle and what possessions I could carry in the back of it in the middle of the night (literally), and left him a 3 page letter on the kitchen table without telling anyone in my family where I was going. I did, however, tell some trusted co-workers with express directions that they were NOT to tell him where I was or what had happened to me. I did not wanting him finding me as I was hoping to get divorced from him.

Now, 10 years later, I am happily married a third time, have an 8 year old daughter and finally enjoy my life and being married. Life is good to me and this is what marriage should be.

Had I known nearly 30 years ago how my 1st two marriages would have turned out, I would not have knowingly gone through them, even if it meant losing my first two children (I lost custody of them to their father when they were 6 & 8) because I don't have any contact with them anyway, and you can't miss what you don't know.

Life is much better for me now and there isn't one thing I would change about it, except maybe have two more children than I do. But, God blessed us with just the one and I'm not taking her for granted!



Friday, September 24, 2010

Sad and depressed

Ok, sad for sure, depressed? eh, probably really not. Sometimes I wonder what people are really thinking when they jump on a social networking site and blather away with profuse profanity. Seriously. I'm appalled and quite frankly disgusted with what people think is acceptable and then turn around and gripe because someone gets on there saying they're offended and the person using the disgusting, nasty, trash language says that if the person commenting doesn't like what's being said can just ignore it and doesn't need to comment. Well, excuse me, but when you type trash in all caps it's kind of hard to ignore. I mean come on, do you really expect me to just ignore the garbage that's up there on their page and not say something? Really?

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Today is 9/11/10

It's been exactly 9 years since the World Trade Center towers, a field and the Pentagon were hit by jets. All those lives taken, all those beautiful things destroyed.

My husband and I were on the road driving for Swift as truck drivers. We had just gotten married on the 26 of August and couldn't believe our eyes and ears when we sat down to eat dinner at a truck stop restaurant in Kentucky. We had just been to New York the week before, seen the twin towers and thought how blessed we were to be able to see the countryside together.

We'd been driving all day, and quite by design I'd say, did not (thankfully) have the radio on. Which, in all honesty, is unusual for us, because normally we'd be listening to NPR.

Looking back at that day a few days later, I recalled noticing there were no jets in the air that day. Which when after hearing what had happened in NYC, made complete sense and I realized after noticing no planes, I didn't give it much thought beyond that.

Now, here we sat, numbly eating our dinner and thinking how lucky we were that we'd already gone to NYC and were not back there this trip. We finished our meal, paid the cashier and went out to our truck and Jack our JRT, hugged him, took him for his walk and then climbed back in the cab and got ready for bed. I don't think either one of us slept much that night for all the images in our heads and thinking about the lives lost.

Now, here I sit, 9 years later. I'm safely in my home in Arizona, I have an almost 8 year old daughter and my father has been living with us for the past 3 months. My daughter knows we are remembering those lost in the tragedy of 9 years ago, but not really understanding why. I'm still not sure a 7 year old is quite ready to hear all about it or that she will even completely comprehend what happened all those years ago.

I may tell her bits and pieces, let her ask questions and answer them, or find the answers as best I can. Life is good right now. I'm truly blessed to have wonderful family and friends and my health.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

A couple of nights ago I ordered another princess seamed jumper and a tennis dress (the first of many, I'm guessing) for Carli. I had already ordered four scooters (not skorts, mind you, but scooters - skirts with attached shorts), a princess seamed jumper, two navy blue polo shirts, 3 camis, 9 pairs of bikini panties and 12 pairs of socks, all in preparation for the new school year at her new school.

Well, since I needed said princess seamed jumper and tennis dress almost immediately and would never have found them in stock at Target, I went ahead and ordered them and requested 2-day shipping. Never once imagining that I would be charged an outrageous amount for such convenience ($17.97!)

On Friday, as my husband was checking our checking account online, he sent me a text at work asking me what I had bought and how much I had spent for the two items. I told him no more than $25 minimum. Well, he said, then how could the bill be for $50? $50? I said. I did the math (and so did he) and we came up with the same amount and it was not $50 for the two items, plus shipping and handling.

When I got home, I got online and checked my order with Target to see what I had ordered and discovered that I had been charged $8.99 shipping for one of the items to be shipped separately - because the item was in stock and the store did not want to inconvenience me by holding up my order - and $8.98 shipping for the other item (to be shipped later).

Well, the princess seamed jumper is only $12.99 and the tennis dress is only $14.99 - why in the world would I be charged more than half of the price of the item for shipping? What business, in their right mind would charge a customer so much for 2-day shipping?

I immediately called Online Customer Service at Target requesting to know why I was charged twice for shipping when I'd ordered both items at the same time? Not only would the lady not answer my direct question, but she told me that I was being charged separately because each item was being shipped separately. When I explained to her that I had ordered said items together, she did not seem the least bit interested in hearing me.

After I hung up on her, I thought to check my personal email account, just to see what was on there. I found a message from Target.com Guest Services regarding my recent inquiry. I opened the email and read it with great interest...'We always strive to provide a high level of service and would appreciate your feedback'...then it went on to say 'please let us know if we resolved your inquiry and there were two separate links to click, one for yes and one for no.

I clicked the 'no' link where I provided the confirmation number for my order and was given the opportunity to write an email explaining why I was not satisfied with the response I'd received. In part, my response was that I was outraged that I would be charged nearly $18.00 for 2-day shipping, suggesting that they use the United States Post Office to ship merchandise rather than UPS or any like shipping company, and that they have lost an online customer in me and that from now on I will be finding what I need elsewhere. There was a lot more than just that, but I'm sure you all get the gist of what was said.

Anyway, today I get on my email and I find another email from Target.com Guest Services, regarding my order #...I open the email to find an "I'm sorry..." and that "I realize the cost of shipping for your order seems high..." from an individual named Manjula M., Online Guest Services stating that they would be reversing all charges within the next 10 days, that my feedback is a big help to them and that the information will be shared with the right team. Again, there are links to let them know if I was satisfied with the outcome or not.

Well, I haven't responded to this latest inquiry as of yet, because although the shipping charges are being reversed, I'm not going to go back on my word of never ordering online from them again.

I learned an extremely valuable lesson here. I will always make sure I know what I'm being charged for shipping before I decide how soon I need my stuff.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

It's obviously been awhile...

since I've posted. I know, I know...such a slacker. But I've been busy living my life, really I have. I can't imagine

Things have been going really well lately and life is good. I am going to have to go back to work for awhile until I get approved to be my father's caregiver, but that's for another post in another blog - look for it in 'Caregiving - what it's all about'.

Anyway, I finally ordered Carli's uniforms for her and they have now been shipped out. I pray they arrive in time. Meet the Teacher night is August 5th from 5:30 - 7:00 and there's supposed to be a uniform exchange where parents bring in used uniforms and sell them for anywhere from a quarter to maybe a dollar. Important information to know, especially if what I ordered doesn't get here before the first day of school (August 9th).

Unfortunately, Carli's first day of school is also my first day back to work. I think I'm going to show up late that day as it really won't matter if I'm there on time or not since there won't be any kids there and I'm guessing we're just going to be busy setting up our new reading lab - we've been moved from one classroom to another and we're gonna need the day to set up our tables and get ready to start getting ready for intervention.

I don't plan on working there the entire school year. As soon as I start getting paid to take care of Harry, I'll be taking a leave of absence. I'll miss teaching the kids to read and being a part of a collaborative team of great IA's, but Harry needs me here taking care of him...but I digress...this does belong in my other blog.

So...guess I'll close for now...toodles.

Friday, July 23, 2010

Friday Musing 07.23.10



















Well, it's been a few days since I've blogged, mostly because I've been too busy doing other things - like farmville on facebook - and generally staying off the computer and vegging on the couch to watch television.

We just spent the last couple of days visiting friends of ours from out of town at their hotel. Wednesday night James and I went to visit them sans Carli. It was a lot of fun getting to be an adult with other adults, drinking and not having to worry about our 7 year old.

My father graciously watched her for us and I'm glad he did. They had a good time together, Carli is always so well-behaved for him, thank goodness! We had planned on only being with them for a couple of hours, but it turned out to be four hours instead, we were having such a great time with each other. After the free drink hour was over we went back to the hotel to discuss what to eat for dinner. None of us really wanted to go out so we headed up to the sports bar on the 4th floor, ordered another round of drinks - except for me, I had pop and an order of Nachos.

The nachos were delicious, btw...I'm so glad we did that! We went back down to their room and I managed to take some pictures of the four of us - that was a lot of fun trying to squeeze four adults onto a love seat!

I'm including all four pictures...please enjoy them.


Monday, July 19, 2010

Found out more information regarding Carli's new school

I called the school this morning just to check and make sure I understood the uniform requirements. I can buy polo shirts from the school if I want her to have the school logo and found out they're only $8.95 instead of $11.00! Cool. I like saving money whenever/wherever I can.

I think I'll still go ahead and buy two shirts (one navy and one green) and then purchase a couple more plain polo shirts when I buy her uniform bottoms. I asked Patience if it was ok if she wore pants, capris, skirts/skorts, shorts and jumpers. Those are all fine. She can even wear leggings or tights (black, white and navy). Awesome.

Now I just have to not go overboard buying skirts/skorts, shorts, pants, capris, leggings, tights, etc. I can't wait to shop for those items, however. And I'll more than likely have to do it online. Which is ok because it only takes a couple of days to get them. Walmart has a ship free to home (on eligible items, only, however), otherwise it'll cost 97 cents or have them shipped to the store also for free. That would be nice, provided I can get to the store when the items arrive, which I probably will be able to do.

I'd buy them online and have them shipped to the Tempe location, of course since it's closer. Having them shipped to the house would be ideal, but we'll see. 97 cents isn't all that bad and if I buy everything I need and have it sent all at once, that's cheap. Some items would be free which will be nice.

Anyway, I can't wait to start shopping for her uniforms. I might even get a few things from Target as well. I'll have to order those online too. No biggie. I'll be a pro at it in no time by the time I'm finished! I just want to make sure she has enough uniform bottoms to choose from and make washing less often (yeah, right).

Saturday, July 10, 2010

0518 and I'm up and wide-awake. Can't sleep because hubby keeps jerking in his sleep. I'm supposed to get up an hour from now, so I'm hoping that I'll be able to stay awake and drive home ok. I think I will. I'll have my coffee and be fine.

I worry because I've not been getting up this early in a long time. I've obviously been enjoying my summer break too, which, in all honesty will never really end, as long as we can manage to stay afloat monetarily, that is.

Now I'm just waiting on the medical interview portion for my father, which is scheduled for 0800 on the 13th of July. We had the financial interview a couple of weeks ago and it went well. Harry is financially qualified for me to be his caregiver. I pray he will be medically too, at least part-time.

I am the logical person to be his caregiver, because I'm his only child. And, it will cost the state a lot less to pay me than to have him in some assisted living facility or in a nursing home - God forbid, he doesn't need to be in either one of those places! I can take care of him just fine. He's not that bad off and God willing, won't be for a long time to come, either.

So, here I sit, blogging...It's supposed to be 111 today. Sweltering, but rain is in the forecast. I just looked at what the temperature is outside right now at 0525 - 92 degrees already! Sheesh! I suppose I could conceivably go back to bed and try to go back to sleep, but nah, I think I'll go lie down on the couch. At least there I know I won't be jerked awake!

Friday, July 9, 2010

About me...

Full-time wife and mother to my loving husband and precocious 7 year old (ok, soon to be 8 year old) daughter. I live in sunny Arizona and recently had my father move in with us. I hope to be his professional caregiver soon - paperwork is in, just waiting on a medical interview next week).

I had been attending college online and had to drop out due to financial reasons so I'll just leave it at that, for now. My husband started attending college online, as he wants to be a math teacher for high school (perhaps middle school) children. I want to be a psychologist.

I used to work as an English Language Learner Instructional Assistant (ELL-IA) at my daughter's school until this coming school year. I decided not to go back to work in order to pursue my education and take care of my father. It was not an easy choice to make, mind you, and I'm still not sure I made the right one. But, time will tell.

We also moved our daughter to a different school for the 2010-2011 school year. It was a personal one, and I think we made the right choice. She'll be attending a charter school nearby, I'll take her and drop her off and perhaps even, on occasion, be a homeroom mom and maybe even go on field trips, if possible.

This is going to be totally new for the two of us (my daughter and I, that is). And I'm looking forward to the journey.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

You know you're from Arizona if...

You know you're from Arizona if.....

1. You buy salsa by the gallon.


2. Your Christmas decorations include a half a yard of sand and l00 paper bags.


3. You think a red light is merely a suggestion.


4. All of your out-of-state friends start to visit after October but clear out come the end of April.


5. You think someone driving wearing oven mitts is clever.


6. Most of the restaurants in town have the first name "El" or "Los".


7. You think 60 tons of crushed rock makes a beautiful yard.


8. You've signed so many petitions to recall governors that you can't remember the name of the incumbent.


9. You notice your car overheating before you drive it.


10. Your house is made of stucco and has a red clay tile roof.


11. You can say "Hohokam" and people don't think you're laughing funny.


12. You no longer associate bridges (or rivers) with water.


13. You see more irrigation water on the street than there is in the Salt River.


14. You know a swamp cooler is not a happy hour drink.


15. You can say 115 degrees without fainting.


16. Every other vehicle is a 4x4.


17. You can be in the snow, then drive for an hour and it will be over 100 degrees.


18. Vehicles with open windows have the right-of-way in the summer.


19. People break out coats when temperature drops below 70 degrees.


20. You discover, in July, it only takes two fingers to drive your car.


21. The pool can be warmer than you are.


22. You can make sun tea instantly.


23. You run your air conditioner in the middle of winter so you can use your fireplace.


24. Most homes have more firearms than people.


25. Kids will ask, "What's a mosquito?"


26. People who have black cars or black upholstery in their car are automatically assumed to be from out-of-state or nuts.


27. You notice the best parking place is determined by shade instead of distance.


28. The A/C is on your list of best friends.


29. Monday Night Football starts at 7:00 instead of 6:00.


30. You realize that Valley Fever isn't a disco dance.


31. You can finish a Big Gulp in 10 minutes and go back for seconds.


32. The water from the cold water tap is the same temperature as the hot one.


33. You can (correctly) pronounce the words: "Saguaro", "Ocotillo", "Tempe", "Gila Bend", "San Xavier", "Canyon de Chelly", "Mogollon Rim", "Cholla", and "Ajo".


34. It's noon in July, kids are on summer vacation, and not one person is walking on the streets.


35. You experience third degree burns if you touch any metal part of your car.


36. You know better than to get into a car with leather seats if you're wearing shorts.


37. Announcements for Fourth of July events never end with "in case of rain......"


38. When someone asks how far you live from a location, it's always in terms of minutes, not miles.


39. Everyone's smiling and talking about the great weather on rainy days.


40. You have to explain to out-of-staters why there is no daylight savings time.

41. It's noon in July, kids are on summer vacation and yet all the streets are totally empty of both cars and people.

42. Sunscreen is sold year round and kept right at the checkout counter.

43. You put on fresh sunscreen just to go check the mail box.

44. You hear people say "but it's a dry heat!"

Monday, July 5, 2010

July 5th...more pictures of the beautiful fireworks from last night










Fourth of July 2010


Who doesn't love a digital camera? I do, I do! I'm only beginning to figure out my Canon Powershot A550. I want to take pictures of the fireworks tonight at our local park and just discovered that my camera has a setting for firework picture taking! Woo-hoo...Imagine my surprise and gratitude at finding this setting. I have to take my tripod - which is not a big deal and get it all set up before the fireworks start. I can't wait to share this adventure with everyone. I hope the pictures turn out. If not, oh well, I guess I won't share any!

Well, not only did they turn out amazingly (I think they did!) I had a lot of fun taking them as well. Setting up the tripod wasn't nearly as hectic as I thought it would be, especially since my husband stayed with us and set it up for me, since he's better at it than I am...I put the camera on there and did the rest. I had over 200 pictures, some of which I deleted and there are more to delete and the rest I will either crop or leave as is.

This is just one of the many I took that actually turned out. I had to share.


Tuesday, June 29, 2010

It's Official - Carli has been enrolled in her new school for the 2010-2011 School Year

It's official. Carli has now been enrolled in her new school for the 2010-2011 school year. She's spent the last three years at an okay school that I have worked at. It was wonderful being there with her and it made sense having her at the same school in which I worked. Logistically speaking, it was a good idea. I didn't have a vehicle at the time, riding the orbit (our free circulator) to get her to another school was not an option time wise. So, she came with me.

I didn't have much choice but to continue taking her there and I really don't think the teachers/staff are that bad. Just the opposite, in fact. They are all very caring and do a really awesome job teaching the student population.

However, it is time for a change and for the better, I am hoping. Hubby and I (Carli's father) decided that she should be in a school that is smaller in class size, fewer classrooms and performs better than where she's been.

We had looked into sending her to a catholic school, but they are so expensive and she's not ready for that level of education, just yet. We haven't even started our RCIA classes, so catholic school still is not an option.

We also checked into other charter schools, looking them up on the internet and at greatschools.net to see what other parents thought of the schools. Again, logistically, this makes sense.

It's about three miles from our house, and is totally free. Ok, this is true if I get her on the free/reduced lunch program, but hey, you gotta expect to pay for something. And the nice thing is, I got her enrolled in time to take advantage of the free before- and after-school care program they have there.

And, I will take advantage of it. Carli, being an only child, needs the socialization that only comes with being around other children. I think it's always a good idea to socialize children, especially those that are only children. They learn things when they play together before and after school.

I now have the school calendar, as well. I know all the early release dates (which interestingly are on Thursdays - her old school it was on Fridays) and the holidays, Parent Teacher conference dates, school dinners (for Thanksgiving and Christmas) Cultural, Regional Fairs, a Spelling Bee, Field Day and when report cards are sent home.

I love the fact that I get to be a stay-at-home mom, be involved in her education and go be a homeroom mom on occasion. It will be nice. I think I might even join the PTO...see what's up with that and how I can help. It will certainly be different than being involved in a pretty non-existent PTA at her old school...at least I hope it will.






Monday, June 28, 2010

It's 2030 and I'm still up! I need to go to bed as I have been up since 0530 and have been on the go since I got out of bed.

I just read, with great disdain, some very rude comments from some very mean readers about an elderly woman who drove her car into a canal here in Tempe. She mistook it for the doctor's office driveway. I know where the incident occurred, and while I'm not even in my 50s, yet, I understand how she could have been confused.

Anyway...I commented back and told the individuals who were not very nice that they need to remember that someday they'll be old too and that they should cut this woman a break. Nobody was maimed or injured, fortunately.

Sheesh - these whippersnappers really should get a life and lighten the 'f' up!

Monday Musing - 6.28.10

I'm actually up early this morning and you know, it's really nice. I'm enjoying the peace and quiet of the day before I get dressed to take hubby to work so I can have the car.

I was originally planning on getting up at 0600, but then hubby woke me up to ask if his laundry was done...which it was. I'd forgotten to take it out of the dryer yesterday after it was finished. Silly me...no actually, I'd gotten busy doing other Sunday chores like helping get dinner ready and doing the dishes, by hand. Which, I might add is a very rewarding way to do them. 'A little off', as my friend Julie might say, but to see the dishes sitting in the drainer before heading off to bed makes me feel good.

Granted, I should put them away before I go to bed, but by then both my father and daughter are already in bed asleep and I'd really rather not wake them by clanging and clashing dishes and silverware. So, I don't.

I tend to put things away in the morning once everyone is up and about or out of the house and then I don't feel the need to be so quiet and careful - well, I'm careful of course because I'm not into breaking dishes.

Then I can really begin my day of sitting in front of the computer and blogging away or playing on Farmville planting, harvesting and generally doing not much of anything. Today, however, is going to be different. Yeah, I'll hop on facebook throughout the day, but I won't be spending a lot of time there.

I'm going to be dictating for Harry while he transcribes about his life and medical history for me so I can get it down. I would rather type it into the computer than write it and type it later. It'll be faster and in a permanent spot - one that won't get lost in the shuffle...Oh and I have to scan some paperwork before I send it in. I don't want to forget that!

Toodles for now. I have to get dressed and get ready to take hubby to work. Happy Monday everybody!

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Saturday edition - 06.26.10

I love Saturdays. I get to do laundry and general housecleaning. It's my only real day I actually feel like doing anything. During the week my husband is usually home and hanging around and cleaning is not at the top of my list those days.

Not much cleaning is going on right now as I am seriously blogging on this blog and the other blogs I've got. I love blogging...it's like writing in a journal except you are sharing your life with others. It's all hanging out there for others to see and read (if they want to) and nothing is secret or sacred anymore.

But, I guess, when you post something on a public place such as this, you can no longer expect it to be kept private. Oh well, I guess that's why we blog...so we can have our friends and family see what's going on in our lives, what we are thinking and what we are planning to do for the day.

I'm glad this is here for me. I missed being able to journal...I get to put down my most private thoughts and feelings and blog about my day, or the moment I am in. Yay!

Monday, June 21, 2010

Insurance Companies and Dr's offices

So, I received an Explanation of Benefits (EOB) from my insurance company in the mail late last week. I opened it, fully expecting it to be from my doctor I'd seen late in May.

It was not from my doctor. It was, in fact, from another doctor, for a visit on June 8th. The day AFTER my father arrived here. There was no doctor visit in another town, where I don't have a doctor.

I find the doctor's phone number on the internet (turns out the number there isn't right either). So I get the correct phone number and talk to a very nice lady who seemed convinced that I had been to see the doctor for whatever ailment.

I tell her my story, that I have never been to this doctor's office she says, 'but your file says...' she then asks me my date of birth, I give her that information...then she asks me, 'how do you think this is a mistake?' I ask her, 'does this "Donna Brown" have BlueCross/BlueShield", 'no, she doesn't', and when she asks me if I have been to this doctor's office, I tell her, quite simply, that I have not been to a doctor in Mesa. My doctors are either in Scottsdale or Tempe and nowhere else.

So, Colleen says to me, 'Well, let me check into this and call the right person to get this taken care of.' I say, 'Ok, thank you' and give her my phone number so she can call me back.

30 minutes later (or less), my phone rings. I answer it, thinking it's Colleen from this doctor's office I supposedly visited for what, I'm not sure. It's not Colleen, it's a lady named Beth from the billing company back East. She asks me if I'd seen this doctor, I tell her 'no ma'am.' She then asks me if I have had any x-rays recently, I again say 'no ma'am.' She then says, 'are you sure you haven't had any x-rays in the last month?' I again say, 'no.' She then tells me that she will take
care of it and reverse the charges and make sure the correct Donna Brown gets charged (and this Donna Brown doesn't even have the same insurance as I do!)

Well, I called the billing company back east and asked Beth how in the world this could happen. She explained to me that the person who entered the information did NOT check to see that it was the right Donna Brown, correct birthdate and insurance information. She said that she corrected it in the database. I asked her how could she make sure this wouldn't happen again, she said that she flagged the name to have whomever is entering data to check the name, dob and insurance information.

Well, you can bet your sweet bippie that I will most definitely be checking my EOBs from now on!

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Today is Friday and Carli does not have Summer School. It's been interesting to have her home all day and she has pretty much kept to herself and done things on her own, basically entertaining herself.

We interact with her when necessary, but for the most part let her be independent and do her own thing. It's better for her to learn independence and that she is self-sufficient. I love that she wants to do things herself.

She got up pretty early this morning (I'm guessing around 0600) and brought herself out to the couch here in the living room and fell back to sleep. James and I finally got up a little while later and I made coffee for Harry, my father, and then made coffee for us.

We have a french press and an espresso maker - we prefer our coffee either way, Harry prefers the french press. I'm beginning to wonder if we shouldn't invest in a regular coffee maker again. Our Gevalia finally gave up a few months ago and we never replaced it.

When it was just James and I drinking coffee it was no big deal, it's still no big deal...I just make Harry's coffee first, which is a real no-brainer...and then do ours...it just seems silly making two different types of coffee. Oh well, it's a little inconvenience.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Summer School 2010

Day Two of Summer School. All is well. She loves her teacher, Ms. Kati Garcia and seems to be adjusting to the routine. She took her lunch today (her leftover sub sandwich from last night)...I hope it's ok that she did that!

Day Three - Dad took her to school by himself and I stayed home today. I didn't feel like going for a ride because it just didn't seem necessary to tag along. She's already got it down where she needs to go to have breakfast and the staff is so tight about making sure they have all their kids I don't have to worry - ok, much...but I still do.

Day Four - Again, Carli and Dad went to Summer School by themselves. Of course, when it was time to pick her up Dad had me come along, again like yesterday, but that's ok...it allows James to not have to park or wait in a long line of other parents picking up their kids from Summer School and there are a lot of kids going this year!

There are two weeks remaining in this year's schedule and I hope she learns enough to help her during Third Grade. It's certainly different than the enrichment program, but maybe this will inspire Carli to do better in school and she will be able to attend the enrichment Summer School instead of the K-3 AIMS program...or, perhaps we will not go for Summer School next year.

I'm not sure if I will even try and put her in Summer School between her 3rd & 4th grades...I know she loves going to Summer Day Camp at the University of Arizona Cooperative Extension Office in cooperation with 4-H. Yes, it's only a week long, but she gets to do so much and go places she'd never get to go.





Saturday, June 12, 2010

Summer Camp is over...now onto Summer School

Carli had a wonderful time at Summer Camp. She only missed one day (Thursday) due to a camper having head lice! Needless to say I was not happy, less than thrilled and really pissed off. I appreciate that we found out, three days into the camp, but not thrilled that she was missing an entire day, not being able to go to Makutu's Island and totally missing out on the whole experience.

Oh well, hopefully they will be able to take a day and make up for it, I hope.

I haven't heard anything from the University of Arizona yet. Maybe they are still working on figuring out how to get something else for the kids to do. I sure hope so.

Monday, June 7, 2010

Yay for Summer Camp!

So, today Carli starts Summer Day Camp. She's also supposed to be in Summer School, but we were lucky enough to get it delayed a week - well, for her anyway...we don't have that kind of pull around the school schedule.

She is now at Summer Day Camp. We got there scads early, but I'm glad we did. She was second to arrive after a little boy. The gal running today's program called them into the room early and had them pick a seat in the circle. She took Carli's picture as I was walking out...I didn't turn around to watch, darn it.

But it's ok. I have to let her be with other people. It wasn't easy for me to walk out of that building, leaving her there and knowing I won't be picking her up until later this afternoon. Sigh...

Well, guess that's about all for now. I will post more later after we get her home and she tells us all about her first day at Camp.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Saturday musing 06.05.10

So, Carli and I just got back from riding the Orbit to Tempe Marketplace to buy her a new swimsuit and some other sundry items (detangler and ponytail holders). We first stopped to get a bite to eat, she an all beef hotdog and some popcorn for me. We shared the drink.

Then we went shopping for the most perfect swimsuit we could find. We (rather, she) found one she could live with and it wasn't all that expensive either. Only $13.00, which I thought was very reasonable.

See, when it comes to buying a swimsuit for a child, I don't think they should be anymore than about $15.00 full retail price. When you can find one for less than that the smart thing to do is snap it up before you walk away and regret not getting it.

Because I know from personal experience if you wait until later to go back and get it, it will not be there anymore, or at least not the size you need and have to end up settling for something you really don't like or the child does not appreciate.

So, while I don't have a picture of said swimsuit at the moment, rest assured when I do I will post it so all of you may see just how adorable it really is.


Saturday edition - 06.05.10

So, after spending most of yesterday cleaning, doing laundry and other various things to get the house ready for my father, it has come to my attention that today I would seriously like to take a break from all of that.

I awoke this morning just after 0800, and got up and made myself a cappuccino. Then I decided I wanted some french press coffee. I made a two-cup carafe of Black Onyx. I am just now finishing up the second cup of french press - if you're counting, that's three cups of coffee I've had before 1000. Unusual for me, but hey, who's counting! Oh, I am...ha ha.

Now, I know I said I'd like to take a break from cleaning, but that is really not in the cards. I still have some things to do before the house is completely ready. We still need to buy bedsheets, pillow cases, a comforter and a pillow. I think I'd like to have two sets of sheets and two comforters so that while I'm washing one set the bed is still made.

I don't know if Harry will be able to make his own bed or if I'll have to do it for him. James says he thinks Harry should have a headboard, but I disagree. Headboards make it very difficult to make a bed, besides his head is at the wall, so what's the dif?

Anyway, it's time to get off the computer and think about doing something productive. Ha ha...




Friday, June 4, 2010

Friday Edition 06.04.10

I thought I would take a moment to blog about my day thus far. I got up before 0800 this morning and made me a cappuccino. Yummy! I am so glad we have an espresso maker with a steamer for milk. Anyway, I digress.

As soon as my hubby left for work this morning, I started getting busy picking up and doing general cleaning of the house in preparation for my father's arrival on Monday, June 7th. I've also done some laundry and I'm watering the back yard, as well. Somewhere in there I've also managed to be on facebook and chat with my cousin Terri for about 5 minutes.

The only downside to having a child and dog in the house is that once I've swept and mopped the floor I have to do it all over again because my 7 year old 'accidentally' let the dog out the back slider and of course the dog runs straight for the running water and mud! GRRRR!!!

Anyway, I've about giving up mopping for today and anything else I was hoping to get completed. Not only does the 7 year NOT listen to me and do what I tell her, but drags the dog into the fray. I think it's time for a time out.

Well, perhaps that's a tad too much. But, I have finally put my foot down and told her that she is not allowed to run around the house like a mad person anymore and that she needs to stop hitting the dog with the dog's toy (a stuffed bear). I did put her in her room for a few moments and she came out and apologized.

Kids...gotta love 'em, especially when they're yours!

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Tuesday Edition 6.1.10

So, here it is 8:34 a.m. and I have been awake for just over an hour and am on my second cup of coffee. The first one was a cappuccino and this one is more like a latte (steamed milk, very little foam).

I love having my own espresso machine that also steams milk. Coffee from a coffee maker no longer appeals to me. We also have a french press - which I also enjoy having coffee from. There's just something natural and delicious about a french press. Of course, the right coffee really makes all the difference!

We prefer our coffee to be organic in nature, but we are not always given the choice to have organic coffee in our house, so we do often settle for coffee that is not organic.

We went grocery shopping last night and got a Black Onyx coffee for both our french press and espresso maker. It will be nice having the same coffee whether it's an espresso or french press.

It is officially now Summer Vacation and the days are flying by already. Carli goes to Summer Day Camp next week, that evening her grandfather will be arriving in town.

She was accepted into Summer School, but I didn't find that out until after I'd already signed her up for day camp. I called the Summer School District office and asked them if there was any way Carli would still be able to attend Summer School, even though she would be missing the first week. The director said that wouldn't be a problem and that all I would need to do was inform the teacher at "Meet the Teacher" night on June 3rd. Not a problem.

See, during the first week of Summer School (K-3 AIMS) the teachers pre-test the students to see where there may be deficencies so they (the teacher) knows where they (the student) will need the most help. Well, since Carli won't be there, the teacher won't know, so he or she will need to readjust for her and make an exception. Perhaps give Carli the pretest on her first Monday.

Anyway, guess that's about all for now. Later!




Sunday, May 23, 2010

Sunday Edition 5.23.10

We went to the 9 o'clock Mass this morning and it was wonderful! We always feel very welcomed at Saint Mary's in downtown Phoenix. Today was especially different because we were all up and ready to go before 8:30 a.m. - which, by the way, in and of itself is somewhat of a miracle for us.

Near the beginning of mass, the priest invited the children up to the front and we told Carli she could go. Little did I know my Carli would be going somewhere else in the building. She was gone for quite awhile and of course, ever the nervous, worried mom, I wondered about her. I tried to concentrate on what was happening in front of me, but it wasn't easy.

Eventually she did come back with the rest of the children and sat down between us once more. We listened to the sermon and sang and prayed some more before heading downstairs to celebrate Brother Jeff's leaving the parish.

We ate hot dogs, macaroni salad and potato chips...yummy food that we normally don't ever eat, so it was a nice treat. We drank strawberry lemonade and even had a bottle of water. People were so nice! A lady named Kelli took our picture. We met some other parishioners who were very nice to us and made us feel very welcomed.


I think we'll keep going there and learning about what it is to be Catholic, start RCIA and in August start Carli in Religious Education classes so she can learn too.




Saturday, May 22, 2010

Saturday edition - 5.22.10

It is now 0720 and I have just finished my cup of espresso. Ok, cappuccino really...I had steamed/frothy milk and sugar. It was delicious and the best part is that I made it myself.

Usually on a Saturday I would still be in bed sleeping with my daughter. Yes, we co-sleep. We each have our own blanket and it is the best thing in the whole wide world. Not everyone can co-sleep, nor should everyone. It is a personal decision that needs to be made by the entire family - it isn't for all families.

Some might say that co-sleeping will continue until the child goes to college. I say, I doubt it. Eventually the child will stop co-sleeping and move into their own bedroom. Co-sleeping, I believe, promotes healthy, happy children, who are comfortable in their own skin, feel secure and safe and know that they are well-taken care of. Not everyone thinks so.

I say this because my daughter is content knowing that her mommy and daddy love her and enjoy spending quality time with her. Is this the only time we talk about things? Absolutely not! We talk all the time about her day at school and what she's thinking and what she wants to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner - well, during the weekend anyway.

Our daughter has pretty much co-slept with us since the day we brought her home from the hospital. I nursed her for the first few months of her life and having her in bed with me made it simpler. Some might say I was being lazy, not wanting to get out of bed to get her out of her crib. Perhaps, but more like being proactive. Whenever she cried to be fed, she was right there beside me and I was able to nurse her faster. She cried less, got upset less and knew her needs would be immediately taken care of.

Of course, I never changed her diaper in bed. We would get up and go to the changing table and take care of business. Then, sometimes we would head out to the living room to sit in our rocking chair and have conversations. Ok, I'd talk to her, she'd listen and then coo in response.

As she got older, we decided to move her to her own crib (at around 6 months of age). She adjusted nicely to the new routine and since I was no longer breastfeeding, there really wasn't any real need for her to continue co-sleeping.

This lasted for a couple of years. Until her father's work schedule/habits changed. He started working a different job and was no longer around as much. This deeply affected our daughter and she began co-sleeping with me again. I wasn't too bothered by it, because she's such a good sleeper, sleeping through the night and only getting up once or twice at the most to go potty, then climbing back into bed and falling back to sleep immediately.

Then we moved into transitional housing, for reasons beyond our control and since there was only one bed, the only option was for the three of us to continue co-sleeping. So, we did. I guess the habit is hard to break and when she was diagnosed with asthma just a month before her 5th birthday, I knew she would continue to co-sleep so I could keep an ear and eye on her, listening to her breathe. Thank goodness she was in bed with me the night she had her first and only major (so far and I pray to God there will be no more nights like this one) asthma attack. Had she not, who knows what would have happened, because, quite possibly, behind her closed door, I would have never know she was having trouble breathing.

She still suffers from asthma, but might outgrow it. Her brother did and I'm praying she'll do the same. I am very much for co-sleeping, but only if it's what both parents want to do and it doesn't work for everyone. We only have the one child and so it is a non-issue. I'm guessing that sooner, rather than later, our daughter will want to return to her bedroom and start sleeping in her own bed and not ours. But, I'm not pushing the issue. That is a choice she can make on her own. That's not to say that I won't broach the subject on occasion. Especially if she's getting close to her teen years. Nah, I doubt she'll be close to being a teen-ager before she decides to sleep in her own bedroom. I'm guessing it'll be a lot sooner than that!

Friday, May 21, 2010

Friday Musings 5.21.10

Remember my "Tuesday Musing"? I ended up giving my ring that I'd purchased for a dollar to my friend (co-worker). She absolutely loves it and was shocked when I gave it to her. I let her try it on first to make sure it fit and it did.

That's when I said, 'It's yours.' She was astounded and surprised, but very happy. She gave me a really big hug and today at work, showed me the copper earrings she said it would go with oh so nicely. And it does. It is beautiful. I'm so glad I was able to give something to someone who loved what I had and that I was able to share it with her.

I remember once, a long time ago, someone giving me a ring that I thought was beautiful and how surprised I was at the gesture of the person giving it to me.

It was nice to return that feeling/gift to someone I felt close to.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Tuesday musings 5.18.10

I'm bad. I neglected to blog yesterday and yes, I had plenty of time to do so. Why didn't I, you may ask? Well, to be honest, I didn't even think about it. Do I feel guilty, no, not really...silly, perhaps. Although I know it doesn't really matter if I blog or not.

Nothing of great significance or importance happened yesterday. Not much worth mentioning, except that I did something yesterday I've never really done before. I went shopping with a female co-worker of mine.

The shopping trip ended up being a bust for my friend. I may end up giving her the very thing she was looking for. Back in March, during Spring Break, I went shopping with the girls (Carli and Sierra) and met Sierra's mom at Tempe Marketplace where we ended up shopping together for a little while before ending our nearly week long time of having Sierra spend the break with us. But I digress.

Anyway, I had bought a really pretty gold ring to wear on my left ring finger and over time the gold came off and revealed a most gorgeous copper ring underneath. Why, again, you may ask, who cares that its a copper ring? and how much did she pay for this piece of jewelry anyway? Well, the ring says 'dream', 'faith', 'love' all around the outside. It's really pretty, and if I could take a picture of it, trust me, I would.

Remember, I said earlier that my co-worker and I went shopping?? We went to find that exact ring at the store where I'd purchased it and remember I'd said the shopping trip was a bust? It's because the ring was no longer in the store. My friend (co-worker) is from Colombia and apparently loves copper! Now, I must tell you, I only paid $1.00 for the ring.

Today, my friend said to me, "Sell me the ring." I told her, "But I only paid a dollar for it." She said, "You can sell it to me for $2.00." I talked it over with my husband, asking him what he thought. He told me if I was that attached to it, to not let her have it. If I wasn't that attached to it, let her try it on to see if it fit, and if it did tell her she could have it. She's going home in July and is hoping to maybe find something similar. I don't know if she'll be able to or not. Now, I'm mulling it over.

I quite possibly may never see her again and wouldn't this be a wonderful goodbye gift? hmmmmm...

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Happy Sunday - we're going to Church by ourselves!

Carli and I are going to church alone, with each other...it should be interesting. We are riding the bus and I hope we get there without too many problems. I figured it out! Woo-hoo! We'll take our neighborhood circulator...the one we always ride on and get there no trouble. I'm so excited I managed to find out early enough.

So, we're back home now. We caught the bus in plenty of time, but it was going the wrong way - but, hey - it's all good. We ran into the driver (her name is Kim) that we really like. She's sweet and has a son Carli's age.

We had to walk a few blocks from the transit center to the church, but because it's so gorgeous outside today it wasn't awful. This is why I love living in Arizona! We have an awesome church to attend and I'm just not sure we'd be able to find the same thing in Washington State.

So, we had a great time at church...finding a ride home on the bus was just as simple and we were home in no time. I loved the weather that day. Thanks Lord!

Supposed to be blogging everyday

But life seems to have gotten in the way of that! And for that I'm sorry. Anyway, life has taken a turn for the better recently. We were finally able to buy a new car - well, new to us! A 1984 VW Rabbit Convertible we aptly named 'Raggit the Rabbit'.

He is gunmetal gray and has a beige convertible top. He is a racing vehicle complete with racing suspension, tires, wheels, engine and everything necessary to race - should we ever want to - but I think we'll keep it as our family car.

You might be wondering why we named our car. Well, it's a family tradition, first and foremost, and - how can you not name something with a face! Here's the first picture we took of 'Raggit the Rabbit'.

It is so wonderful to finally have a family vehicle. We have been without a car of our own for over three years now. Yes, in the background you see a 1972 VW Bus that has been sitting in the driveway for nearly two years. Because of funding and time constraints, my wonderful husband has not been able to do much to get Miss Sunny ready for the open road.

She has shoes and an engine and tranny, but the brakes are not operational and doesn't even start up. Poor Miss Sunny. I think she's happier now though that she has a friend. We tend to go a little ga-ga with our vehicles, I know...we're weird.

Fortunately, my husband was able to secure a job as a cab driver and did so for about three years. Which provided us transportation until we were able to get our own car! Now, he gets to give up that job (and the cab) and is working part-time for the Post Office.

We are planning on going back to college full-time and online. Hubby is starting first and then when I am finished working at our daughter's school I will start college full-time, online. I can hardly wait! I had been attending college, but had to drop out due to no money.

That's all about to change in a few weeks and I am looking forward to being a full-time student and finally being able to take care of my home the way it should be taken care of. Working full-time and trying to take care of the house has not worked. It isn't easy, but will be better soon.

Well, I really haven't caught up on everything that's been happening in the last couple of weeks, but I will!

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Sunday Evening Edition

Sunday Evening Edition, brought to you by - ME!

I finally found someone to do my nails - someone who loves what she does and doesn't need or want to charge an arm and a leg to do it out of her home.

I met Chandra couple of weeks ago while walking around the block with my 7 year old - who just happened to see a yard sale sign.

I couldn't say no, so of course we walked on over to see what was for sale...Carli found lots of toys! Anyway, we introduced ourselves and discovered we share a birthday. I also had a bent nail at the time and was inquiring as to whether or not she could fix it - she said it would be no problem.

As it turns out, I wasn't able to come up with the money to pay her and ended up waiting a couple of weeks until the finances were available. In the meantime, my bent nail over the course of those couple of weeks broke off in the middle of the night, while I was sleeping, and I woke up and took it off...sounds painful, but I promise, it wasn't.

I finally got my nails done tonight! I set up my appointment with Chandra - who lives less than a block from my house...so easy, I can walk there whenever I've got an appointment for a fill or new set - which won't be for a couple more months.

What's sad about all of this is that I have been going to the same nail salon for the past three years and loved going there. Was treated with respect and kindness and the employees loved my daughter. However, the last time I went there and got my new set, the guy who did them didn't listen to my request to have a short set of tips and instead made them as long as the old ones he'd just removed.

That and having my nail break off, which has NEVER happened before. Talk about disappointment. I should have gone back - but it's such a hassle for me since I don't have a vehicle...and work during the day...

My hands look so much better with acrylic nails and I love the compliments I get when they look nice. I may be 46, but when my nails are pretty, I don't feel my age.

Chandra did an awesome job and I will continue going to her for fills and a new set. I just hope she continues to work with me on the prices.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Happy Sunday!


Well, now here it is, really 0830 and we are all finally awake and having a cappuccino before we get dressed and head to our first family church visit. We are converting to Catholicism.

Now granted, this is a personal decision for my husband, for me and our daughter. We are not asking for permission from anyone outside of our immediately family, nor are we asking for comments or concerns.

If someone wants to ask us why Catholicism, we will be happy to answer their questions and we are not willing to debate the issue. What we do in our private lives is our business and no one else's. Not even our parents know just yet what we've decided and that's because we are just barely beginning our journey into our new found Christianity.

Last night we went shopping to buy some new 'church going' clothes for Carli and I. Dad had already bought some new clothes a couple of months ago and was in no dire need of anything new, except some dress socks. Carli and I, however, were another matter entirely.

Carli ended up with three new outfits (including her dress, shawl, shoes and socks - specifically for church) and I ended up with two new outfits, which I can also wear to work should I choose to. I even got a new pair of high heels! which I will probably not wear very often! At least on some Sundays I will, but that'll be the only time.

Once we all completely dressed and ready to go, there is going to be a family portrait taken (self-portrait, that is), I can't wait to see how pretty we all are!

Saturday, April 10, 2010

First Entry

So, here's my first entry into "A Day In The Life Of Me". This is going to be (I hope) a daily blog of what transpired during my day whether it be during the week or on the weekend.

I have always, somewhere else and never in the same place, blogged briefly about what happened during work or some other time. I needed one particular spot in which to do it and I have made that place - here on blogntweet.

I hope to get some followers...someone who will read, make comments, give advice when I ask for it and generally become someone who can relate to what I'm blogging about. I hope you find it interesting.